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Dear readers, in this article we talk about my life in the farms of southern Italy when I was young. Anyhow, I need to point out that then life was different from today; so, let us compare our life now, to the time when I was young.
From my life experience, I can assure you that life in the past was much harder than today. Because today we are living in this new and wonderful era of electronic devices, and you can choose to listen, watch, or play with these electronic devices anywhere. But in those times, there was nothing similar, in fact, we could not even guess that these things were going to come up and they would help humanity to live a better life.
Therefore, I want to say to the youths of today; can you imagine a world that has no man-made electronics devises? A world with not even a single push button devise that you can amuse yourself with. Today everywhere we go; we see people with their mobile phones doing all sort of things, which is wonderful.
Anyhow, life was completely different then, it was quiet and boring and that is how my farm-life was like when I was young. So, let me describe this life in the small farms of Southern Italy.
The small farms of those days
In the small farms of those days there was no electricity, so, we had no electrical devices, or a portable radio to listen to, because those devices had not come out yet on the market, and even if they were, we could not afford one, you see, there wasn’t any money around in farming those days. I know that today it is hard to believe what I am saying, but it was so, we could only afford to buy things needed for surviving.
So, I had to grow up in this lonely environment, in the company of our farm animals, which they don’t talk back to you when you say anything to them, they listen and everything ends there, even if there is a certain understanding between you and those animals, so, you may feel that you have some friends. Therefore, as I grew up and became a teenager, I realized that I was falling behind to the rest of the town community, in a social way. To understand what I am saying here, I need to explain that I was working in the farm every day, we were allowed to go to our home in town ones or twice a week in the evening and when we were not too busy in the farm we could also spend every second Sunday in town with the members of our family that were permanently living in town. This is how I was able to compare that I was, were in a disadvantaged position.
As I said, we were in a disadvantaged position and becoming dull, as long as we were in that position; here I mean everything at all could have helped us a bit, even knowing what was happening in the community, which the other boys in town seemed to know everything and we seemed so dull, when we were compared to them, also the ways of expressing ourselves clearly was not easy, since we were forced to live a lonely and taciturn way of life, therefore we did not speak much.
There were times that I wanted to have a radio like the people in town, so that I could listen to a proper way of speech, or perhaps even a song or two, and I could improve my knowledge that way, but it was not possible. Therefore, I was stuck in that lonely world, where one is stuck with one’s own company and thoughts day and night for ages, and there was not much that we could do to improve it.
In the farms of those days there were only a few people staying and working there, and they were doing their farm duty. So, they did not care to talk to you, if you were younger than them. Then those people that are in the farms don’t talk very much, since in their isolation there is nothing much to talk about; so, they are used to be taciturn, and there were days when only a few phrases were exchanged between us; so, conversation was very low indeed. Therefore, this way of life that I was living could only affect me later in life in a disadvantageous way, because I was young and my needs would have been better served, if I had been in a sociable place to learn a more sociable way of life.
There were lots of times when I was alone and nobody was near me to say a single word, and this was happening most days. So, in my isolation I would start thinking and learning things all by myself in my own way, anything at all that came into my mind, or things that would happen in the farm, and when you are by yourself for a long time, and think by yourself for a great length of time, you don’t need to express your thoughts in words to yourself, therefore anything that you learn may start being stored within your own mind in a different way, you still learn things, perhaps even more accurate than when you learn with words: The only drawback is that when you have to speak out, lots of times you would not know what to say; not because you don’t know it, since in your mind there is a clear picture of what you need to say; but because you find hard to find the right words to express yourself. So, this is one of the great disadvantages, which I and those youths who were unlucky like me, since they ended up working in their own families’ farms. I am sorry to say it, but we had to put up with the hard consequences which have followed us for the rest of our lives. Now allow me to describe the farm life of those days.
Describing our farm life.
In the farms of those days, because there is nothing much to talk about, farmers’ people are usually taciturn; and when you compare this way of life of the farmers, to the towns’ people way of life, you can feel at once the difference. You see, when you are in small towns, people converse a lot with each other, but in the farms, there seems to be a great silence of human voices, not only because there are not many people to talk to, but also because those people that are there are not interested in talking, since they are there to do their job and run the farm. So, we who happened to be living in the farms when we were young, we had to keep ourselves to ourselves, and this is how and why we became dull later in life.
So, whoever has happened to have lived in the farm as I did would have to become dull, particularly if one was as young as I was and the few people around me were much older than me, because as I said those people in the farms were there to do their jobs, and therefore, they could not care about the young ones’ developing social skills, because it had nothing to do with the running of the farm, and because they didn’t know anyhow, so, they would go about doing whatever they had to do, after all that was the way of life in the farms, and people accepted it as being normal. But today I hate the way of life that I had to live in the farm when I was young, because it made me then a dull person.
Of my shortcomings, I became aware even more, when I had to leave my farming life behind, since I had to start a different way of life somewhere else. And since then, right through my entire life I have tried to catch up with the rest of the community, but it seems to me that I have never been able to catch up completely. So, this is the reason why I hate that way of life; it is because such a way of life, can only breed dull people; and so I and all those youths which ended up working in the farm at a very young age had to become dull.
But this is not all that I could complain about; because there were times when we went to town, while we were there, we could feel that the town’s people, would ridicule us for being what we were, and this would hurt us very much, because it was not our fault for being what we were.
This is a sad story, but let us try to turn this negative aspect of life into a positive one; because whatever we do there is a positive side to it; in this case the positive side is that we have learned that we have to work hard to earn a living, and we have learned to accept things the way they come to us. Now, by using what we have learned, let us turn negative into positive wherever we can, that would be the only sensible thing to do in life.
Turning negative into positive.
Dear readers, I have had a large share of hard life myself, for that reason I can cry my heart out for the consequences that it created, but I am not going to surrender and continue to cry my heart out forever; because I believe that we must try to overcome our inner pains, therefore, from now on, I am going to try to turn this negative event of my life into a positive one, that is the only way to go about with these things, when they happen to us.
Now the story of my life has many sides, one of which is that I had to work in our family farm, when I was young, and there were some future problems attached to it. Because I worked in the farm when I was young, during my life I have felt disadvantaged, feeling disadvantaged is a negative thing, and I have felt hurt even more because I was living in the farms without knowing the consequences that could follow me, so, even today my heart wants to cry out, but I am not going to let it happen in this negative way. Because I have made up my mind that I am going to fight back and try to turn a negative experience into a positive one, I believe that this is the only way that makes sense and I am going to do it anyhow. I know that what I am saying here may sound ridiculous, but I am going to do it anyhow, as this is the only way that I can think, how to break away from my negative feelings these days.
Now, I am going to make an effort and break away from my old farm life and try to live a normal life, therefore, I am going to turn negative into positive, as this could be the only way to deal with my life drawback; so, in our next article, I will be talking about, Turn negative into positive.
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