Turning negative into positive.

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So, today I am writing a post from my life story, that I have called, Turn negative into positive. 

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It is a well known fact that the brain is the place where we feel all the pains and other sensations. So, if we wand to live a better life for ourselves, we should choose to think about those things that makes us feel better, perhaps we should try to turn negative happenings into positive thinking, we need to do that to achieve a better life. 

Welcome to my article,  Turn negative into positive. 

Dear readers, life most times is hard, and with are forced to live it the best way we can. In my young life I have gone through negative experiences, but today I have made up my mind, so, I am going to turn negative happening into positive thinking; to do that we must go through a process of many stages, I have gone through most of this process, and I continue to go through.

Now, let me break away from my farm life story, and their negative thinking that they have left within my mind; because I think that to cry over past events will not help, therefore, today I am going to express myself with the knowledge that I have painfully acquired later in my life. Because I want to throw away my shyness forever and never look back at those drawbacks that I had early in my life. Therefore, I want to break away from the past forever; I want to introduce myself to the world and say with a loud voice, what I need to say. So, I am going to turn those negative experiences into positive thinking; I am introducing myself to the world and say, “hello my world” and try to fit in with other people as well. It is going to be a bumpy ride.

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Introducing myself to the world

Dear readers, what I am going to write next will sound ridiculous, because this is not what happens in real life; however, this is one of my imaginary ways of how I can break free from my boring and shy life that I have lived in the past, I know that this way is going to be strange; but let us leave behind these negative thoughts and be positive; so, let me introduce myself to the world. 

Hello my world, I am coming to you with open arms. I hope you accept me the way that I am, since I would like to be your friend.

HELLO MY WORLD! HERE I COME TO YOU WITH OPEN ARMS.

Hello world! Hello life! Hello everybody!

Hello, to the imaginary people that I am going to talk to in this article. So, I hope that you would listen to me and be my friends, you see, I want to be friendly with you people, since we all live in this same world, you see, we are here and we try to live the best way we can, our earthly life. So, may I ask, if I can have the pleasure of your company?

I know that what I am saying may not make sense to you, because friendship just happens, and I know that I need to learn how to be friendly with people. So, I must learn how to introduce myself and other things. You see, I have lived my live in an isolated place, so, I will make mistakes, while I am trying to say something that is important.

Anyhow, I hope that you don’t mind me if I ask some questions, because they are important to me, I hope also that you don’t mind me personally, as I am keen to be your friend, so, in my own strange ways, I would like to meet you, or at least those that are thinking that they can be friend with me. Since I want to share some of my time with you, and some of my personal views.

Now, because this is the first time that I have met you, I would like to introduce myself and make your acquaintance personally, this is one of those things that I have learned lately, one needs to know how to introduce oneself easily; so, let us do that and let us see and practice how to introduce ourselves politely today and take a look how it was done in the bygone days, just to compare the difference.

Anyhow, we are talking to a group of imaginary people, so I say: I would like to shake your hand to each one of you, and while I am shaking your hand, I say, pleased to meet you, or “How do you do”, this is one form of introduction but there are many others. So, to Mr Y. or X. and no matter who you are; when we were introduced to other people or we introduced yourselves we said; “How do you do!” 

Now, let me introduce myself in a modern and simple way.

Hello, my name is, “Francesco Menchise” and I am from Brisbane Australia; while I am doing this introduction, if I am close enough to the person that I am introducing myself I would put my right hand forward ready to shake hand it the other person accept my hand shake; here the other person is supposed to also extend his hand and accept my hand shake, while shaking hand the other person is supposed to say pleased to meet you, followed by his name (John West?) so, he is also introducing himself at the same time, and then I could say the pleasure is mine and talk about whatever is necessary.

Just to say something, I might say, my name is Francesco Menchise, but everybody here calls me Frank, and Frank sounds good and friendly to me, and it is easy to say; so, just call me Frank and let it be, as it easier for you and me.

Now that I have introduced myself in a modern and mannerly way, let me go back to talk as if I am talking to a group of people: May I ask you your names please? So, that you can also introduce yourself, and then we can be friends; I’d like to shake your hand to each one of you, and while I shake your hands I will say, “I am pleased to meet you!” You may answer me, “I am pleased to meet you too.” Or if you wish you may say, “The pleasure is mine.”

 

About the introduction and other talks. 

During my life, I have noted that people that have lived a withdrawn life style don’t know how to start a conversation and introduce themselves; so, I have written this introduction above to give the importance it deserves, I know that there are different ways for introducing people, and people use different ways for introducing themselves, so, my introduction might not be the best, but it points out that it is necessary to know some forms of introduction.

You see, most of us are not born with that presence of mind that want to introduce ourselves, therefore, I believe that it is important that all children be thought and drilled, on how to introduce themselves properly from their parents and teachers. So, let the introductions be done in several ways as it is supposed to be in real life. So that the children will automatically be ready when a real introduction happens. Otherwise, they will feel awkward and shy, and they will feel that they have put themselves in a disadvantaged position.

Now, I want to tell you how I feel, when I see the way that we behave. But to do that I need to ask you a friendly question. And this question like a greeting can be: How are you? Or perhaps: How are you today?

And I am sure that you will answer; I am very well, thank you. Or perhaps you’ll say, I am well, or I am fine, or I feel great, or I feel as good as gold thanks very much.

And then just to be polite to me you’ll ask me back. And how are you today? (And then you’ll expect from me very much the same answers that you have given me.) I am very well, thank you. Or I am fine. I am as good as gold thanks. Sometimes this seems to me unreal, so, I am going to write something about the ways that we behave, when we behave in an unrealistic way; even if it can be the right thing to do.

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This is the way that we sometimes behave 

The way that we behave

Speaking for myself, the reality of life is that I find life has lots of ups and downs, and even if I don’t admit them to you, I feel them within myself. So, when you happen to ask me, ‘How are you?’ I may happen to be very much down, but, I will still answer you: I am very well, thank you! So, my dear readers, listeners or friends, there are no doubts about our behavior that it is sometimes strange, and so, we should admit that the following most times is true.

We behave sometimes as if everything is indeed unreal, when we do say things that we do not mean or feel. And even when our own heart is hurt and cries in pains, we do turn to the world and pretending smile again, because we don’t want the world to see our pains. But all the efforts that we have made have been in vain. Because our heart still hurts and we still feel that pain.

I am sure that most of you will agree with me about what I have written above, because you may have been in a painful situation yourself, and therefore, you know and understand what I mean. But at the same time: What’s the use to pretend such a thing? When it is only pretense? Even if it has been able to make one feel better for a few moments, and one has been able to overcome the inner pains and has smiled just for a second. But, is all this pretense worthwhile, because you may be deceiving yourself.

But then it might be worthwhile, because we have been able to control ourselves and for a few moments we have felt well in the middle of those afflictions that are bugging us, but anyhow, every one of us does this in his own ways, because our lives are different to other people lives. As we all know, every one of us has a story to tell.

As you can see, we sometimes behave in strange ways; my own judgement here is that, perhaps it might be worth behaving in such a deceitful way, not because we have been able to lie to ourselves, but because we have been able to control our own pains. And we have been able to live as well as we can.

Now, let me go back to tell you the story of my life, because we are like everybody else and we have a story to tell.

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Every man or woman has a story to tell

Every man or woman has a story to tell

We are writing this article, as if there is a group of people willing to listen what we want to say. I hope that the way that you are living your life is good for you for your own sake, because life can be very boring up to the point where it may become painful. And I must admit that I am in such painful position myself often. So, I feel so frustrated about my life that I ask myself. Oh my God! Why life has got to be so hard and boring for me these days? What have I done to deserve this? Why don’t I have the chance like everybody else to enjoy life as it should be enjoyed?

Therefore, I feel that life has not given me what by rights I should have deserved from it, and for that reason I can’t help thinking about life itself, and the ways that I am spending my life these days, together with the way that I have spent the earlier part of my life, so, I keep asking myself whether life has treated me the right way. Or should I have deserved a better life? I know that what I am saying here is lamenting and that is not a good thing to do, because it may upset other people, but that is the way I feel at the moment, so, I am sorry if I have upset you in any way.

I believe that lots of people of my age are going over their own lives like me, and they may be asking themselves; what is life all about? And whether life has treated them fair or not. So, they are looking back at the life that they have lived, and wonder if life has been good for them, and they may have the impression that: That part of life that they have lived now seems only a dream, a dream that has lasted for so many years, but now all those years have gone forever and they will never come back, so, all that is left of their lives is a story to tell. 

So, every man and woman have a story to tell; no matter how unimportant it may seem, and how stupid and ridiculous it may sound, when they tell it to you. But, because it is their life story it is important to them, and they can’t change it because it is their true-life story. But if we listen to their true life story even if it is not much of a story, in the end it may bring up some good common sense, and we can learn something useful from their true story.

Anyhow, whatever are our lives stories and whatever pains we have been through during your life, we must try to overcome our inner pains, if we are going to live a better life. Therefore, we have to try to turn negative things into positive thinking that is the only way to go about and try to live a better life in the future.

This is all that we want to say in this article. Now, let me tell you my life story, in next article; my farm life continues. 

To see more click on this link, Turn negative into positive. 

See you soon.

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My life in the farm.

WELCOME TO OUR BLOG YOU ARE INVITED , TO BROWSE AS LONG AS YOU LIKE. Anyhow, here I will publish my own diary and what I see happening in the world, and when I do not have much to say, I will write posts from my life story. 

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Farms are very lonely places, it might be okay to live there for a few days, when you want some peace and quiet, since no one will disturb you. But it is not the right environment for a young man, that needs to develop their skills for their future life, specially if they need to change their way of life later. 

  

Welcome to my article, My life in the farms. 

Dear readers, in this article we talk about my life in the farms of southern Italy when I was young. Anyhow, I need to point out that then life was different from today; so, let us compare our life now, to the time when I was young.

From my life experience, I can assure you that life in the past was much harder than today. Because today we are living in this new and wonderful era of electronic devices, and you can choose to listen, watch, or play with these electronic devices anywhere. But in those times, there was nothing similar, in fact, we could not even guess that these things were going to come up and they would help humanity to live a better life.

Therefore, I want to say to the youths of today; can you imagine a world that has no man-made electronics devises? A world with not even a single push button devise that you can amuse yourself with. Today everywhere we go; we see people with their mobile phones doing all sort of things, which is wonderful.

Anyhow, life was completely different then, it was quiet and boring and that is how my farm-life was like when I was young. So, let me describe this life in the small farms of Southern Italy.

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The small farms of those days  

In the small farms of those days there was no electricity, so, we had no electrical devices, or a portable radio to listen to, because those devices had not come out yet on the market, and even if they were, we could not afford one, you see, there wasn’t any money around in farming those days. I know that today it is hard to believe what I am saying, but it was so, we could only afford to buy things needed for surviving.

So, I had to grow up in this lonely environment, in the company of our farm animals, which they don’t talk back to you when you say anything to them, they listen and everything ends there, even if there is a certain understanding between you and those animals, so, you may feel that you have some friends. Therefore, as I grew up and became a teenager, I realized that I was falling behind to the rest of the town community, in a social way. To understand what I am saying here, I need to explain that I was working in the farm every day, we were allowed to go to our home in town ones or twice a week in the evening and when we were not too busy in the farm we could also spend every second Sunday in town with the members of our family that were permanently living in town. This is how I was able to compare that I was, were in a disadvantaged position.

As I said, we were in a disadvantaged position and becoming dull, as long as we were in that position; here I mean everything at all could have helped us a bit, even knowing what was happening in the community, which the other boys in town seemed to know everything and we seemed so dull, when we were compared to them, also the ways of expressing ourselves clearly was not easy, since we were forced to live a lonely and taciturn way of life, therefore we did not speak much.

There were times that I wanted to have a radio like the people in town, so that I could listen to a proper way of speech, or perhaps even a song or two, and I could improve my knowledge that way, but it was not possible. Therefore, I was stuck in that lonely world, where one is stuck with one’s own company and thoughts day and night for ages, and there was not much that we could do to improve it.

In the farms of those days there were only a few people staying and working there, and they were doing their farm duty. So, they did not care to talk to you, if you were younger than them. Then those people that are in the farms don’t talk very much, since in their isolation there is nothing much to talk about; so, they are used to be taciturn, and there were days when only a few phrases were exchanged between us; so, conversation was very low indeed. Therefore, this way of life that I was living could only affect me later in life in a disadvantageous way, because I was young and my needs would have been better served, if I had been in a sociable place to learn a more sociable way of life. 

There were lots of times when I was alone and nobody was near me to say a single word, and this was happening most days. So, in my isolation I would start thinking and learning things all by myself in my own way, anything at all that came into my mind, or things that would happen in the farm, and when you are by yourself for a long time, and think by yourself for a great length of time, you don’t need to express your thoughts in words to yourself, therefore anything that you learn may start being stored within your own mind in a different way, you still learn things, perhaps even more accurate than when you learn with words: The only drawback is that when you have to speak out, lots of times you would not know what to say; not because you don’t know it, since in your mind there is a clear picture of what you need to say; but because you find hard to find the right words to express yourself. So, this is one of the great disadvantages, which I and those youths who were unlucky like me, since they ended up working in their own families’ farms. I am sorry to say it, but we had to put up with the hard consequences which have followed us for the rest of our lives. Now allow me to describe the farm life of those days.

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Describing our farm life.   

In the farms of those days, because there is nothing much to talk about, farmers’ people are usually taciturn; and when you compare this way of life of the farmers, to the towns’ people way of life, you can feel at once the difference. You see, when you are in small towns, people converse a lot with each other, but in the farms, there seems to be a great silence of human voices, not only because there are not many people to talk to, but also because those people that are there are not interested in talking, since they are there to do their job and run the farm. So, we who happened to be living in the farms when we were young, we had to keep ourselves to ourselves, and this is how and why we became dull later in life.

So, whoever has happened to have lived in the farm as I did would have to become dull, particularly if one was as young as I was and the few people around me were much older than me, because as I said those people in the farms were there to do their jobs, and therefore, they could not care about the young ones’ developing social skills, because it had nothing to do with the running of the farm, and because they didn’t know anyhow, so, they would go about doing whatever they had to do, after all that was the way of life in the farms, and people accepted it as being normal. But today I hate the way of life that I had to live in the farm when I was young, because it made me then a dull person. 

Of my shortcomings, I became aware even more, when I had to leave my farming life behind, since I had to start a different way of life somewhere else. And since then, right through my entire life I have tried to catch up with the rest of the community, but it seems to me that I have never been able to catch up completely. So, this is the reason why I hate that way of life; it is because such a way of life, can only breed dull people; and so I and all those youths which ended up working in the farm at a very young age had to become dull.

But this is not all that I could complain about; because there were times when we went to town, while we were there, we could feel that the town’s people, would ridicule us for being what we were, and this would hurt us very much, because it was not our fault for being what we were.

This is a sad story, but let us try to turn this negative aspect of life into a positive one; because whatever we do there is a positive side to it; in this case the positive side is that we have learned that we have to work hard to earn a living, and we have learned to accept things the way they come to us. Now, by using what we have learned, let us turn negative into positive wherever we can, that would be the only sensible thing to do in life.

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Turning negative into positive. 

Dear readers, I have had a large share of hard life myself, for that reason I can cry my heart out for the consequences that it created, but I am not going to surrender and continue to cry my heart out forever; because I believe that we must try to overcome our inner pains, therefore, from now on, I am going to try to turn this negative event of my life into a positive one, that is the only way to go about with these things, when they happen to us.

Now the story of my life has many sides, one of which is that I had to work in our family farm, when I was young, and there were some future problems attached to it. Because I worked in the farm when I was young, during my life I have felt disadvantaged, feeling disadvantaged is a negative thing, and I have felt hurt even more because I was living in the farms without knowing the consequences that could follow me, so, even today my heart wants to cry out, but I am not going to let it happen in this negative way. Because I have made up my mind that I am going to fight back and try to turn a negative experience into a positive one, I believe that this is the only way that makes sense and I am going to do it anyhow. I know that what I am saying here may sound ridiculous, but I am going to do it anyhow, as this is the only way that I can think, how to break away from my negative feelings these days.

Now, I am going to make an effort and break away from my old farm life and try to live a normal life, therefore, I am going to turn negative into positive, as this could be the only way to deal with my life drawback; so, in our next article, I will be talking about, Turn negative into positive. 

To see more click on this link,  My life in the farms. 

See you soon.

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My farm life chapter.

WELCOME TO OUR BLOG YOU ARE INVITED , TO BROWSE AS LONG AS YOU LIKE. Anyhow, here I will publish my own diary and what I see happening in the world, and when I do not have much to say, I will write posts from my life story. 

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What is shown in this picture is a wheat field ready to be harvested. From the color of the ears wheat, it looks like it is a field of wheat called Cappelli, which was popular in the fifties, it seem that it will produce plenty of wheat this season, if the entire field is the same as we see in this photo. 

  

Welcome to my article,  My farm life chapter. 

Dear readers, this is the continuation of my farm life, so, whatever I am telling you here is the story of my life and nothing else. Now we can say that no matter how negative life can be, there must be some positive things also.

I believe that to explain what life was like in the farms of my native town of Genzano when I was young, I need to tell you many other things and the town itself, and then the ways of how people used to live in those times and what was happening at the time when I was young. So, let me talk about the town and the population first.

From my memory, I believe that the town of Genzano di Lucania early in the twentieth century had reached a population of about 7,000 inhabitants, in the forties when I was young the population had grown to about 8,000 and reached 8,389 in 1951 inhabitants, and this is the highest number of people on record that I know of. Even though people believe that there were near 10,000 people living in Genzano, but does not matter anymore, because in the seventies it had shrunk to only 5,500 inhabitants or there about. The reasons was that lots of people had to emigrate. Today at the present time while I am writing this article, the town of Genzano has 6200 inhabitant or there about.

My native town of Genzano is known as Genzano di Lucania to distinguish it from another Italian town Genzano di Roma. Anyhow, Genzano di Lucania has a territory of about 21,000 Hectares of land if I remember right, and about 80% of this land is arable land, and it is mostly used to grow wheat, especially durum wheat; the rest of the land is used to grow grapes vines or olive trees and other farm produce, and there are also reserves of grazing land. Anyhow, this town owes its wealth to the rural community that produces wheat, because this town is well known to produce lots of high-quality durum wheat, which the mills that make pasta buy at harvest time. Now even if the mills rush to buy this durum wheat, the price of wheat is not high, so, the farmers make only enough money to keep going and one has to think that it takes one year to produce and harvest a crop of wheat, so, it is not that good for the farmers; there are also other things that must be taken into consideration.

Anyhow, there are lots of other produce from the farms, because we used to have mixed farming, but these produce are used locally, and if some of them are sold out of the town, they are not a great deal to make any difference.

At the time when I was young there were lots of small farms in Genzano, and although the most important crop that brought in the money was durum wheat, in reality they had to practice mixed farming for their own needs, which I will try to explain how the farms were run at those times when I was young.

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How the farms were run then? 

Now, let me explain how these farms in southern Italy were run until the fifties, when things started to change, because of the new farming machine that were coming out, like the tractor and other machine that were replacing manual work; now, because these machines helped the farmers run their farms with less manual workers, the people that were employed in the farms had to find other jobs. Now, let us describe how things were done then, to understand the situation and what was happening to us young would be future farmers.

When I was young during the fifties, before these farming machines became affordable to the average small farmers, all the farmers used to have mixed farming, because it was necessary for many reasons, today mixed farming is practiced to a much less extend, and I will try to explain the reasons. Anyhow, to make it clear, I need to describe the different way of how the land had to be used in the old days.

In the old days to till the soil people used to do it by hand, like what we still do today in our own small home gardens, so, they would dig the soil in very small plots with a hoe, or something like that. But on normal fields in the farms the soil was tilled by ploughing the fields with horse power or other strong animals. Therefore, there was a need for a lot of people to be fed to work the fields, and there were a lot of animals also to be fed to work the fields.

So, this need to feed so many mouths required a lot of produce and also a variety of produce, for this reason mixed farming was required, because it was the only way to produce all this variety of foods that were required. In the old days for several reasons the sowing fields had to be divided into a three-year-rotation, not only to achieve these variety of foods, but it was also necessary to rotate the fields to keep them producing, otherwise the soil would become tired and produce very little, in other words if we would continue to use the fields every year they would produce next to nothing and therefore it was not worth working them, for this reason our forbear had devised this three year rotation, which worked thus;

One year a field would be fallow land and it would not be used at all, or used very little growing broad beans or something like that, then the next year it would be sown with durum wheat, and the year after that the same field would be sown with oats or barley, or other light seeds, and the year after that to fallow land again. So, in realty there was only one third of the land producing durum wheat each year, which was the produce that brought in money to the farmers.

When I was young a lot of people used to work in those farms, and it was hard physical work, specially at certain times of the year, and there was no much money to be made, with the exception of every now and then when we had a really good wheat harvest; but when the harvest was lean everybody would suffer, and all one could do was to start all over again for another year, and so, one was hoping and praying God for a better harvest next year, yes in those times people were a lot more religious than today, so, they believed in God and prayed God and all the saints that they could think of, hoping that they could help them produce good harvests.

Anyhow, there were too many years of lean harvest when I was young, some average and only a few years we had good harvests. But somehow people kept going on, and they were so used to poverty that they accepted it and seemed to be happy just the same, because they did not know of a better life. But one has to keep in mind that the main harvest is only once a year, and one year is a very long time when there is not enough money to go around, even to buy those things that were really necessary to live a modest life.

For all the work that I did in the farm in my youth, I earned almost nothing, but I was able to eat plain wholesome food, and buy a few cheap cloths to keep warm in winter, which sounds very bad these days, but then when there was nothing better that one could do, even this hard and unpleasant way of life would have to do, as long as one could live a healthy life; perhaps living a healthy life was the only thing that we could achieve easily then, because the air was healthier in the country, the life was very boring but at the same time it was not mentally stressful compared to living in towns these days, and if there was any complain about a stench that came from the farm animals, it was something that would not harm anybody, it is only natural that all animals smell of something, we smell also of something even if we don’t notice it.

The human side of farming.   

Now, to understand farming and what was happening, we need to see how the ways of living had been set up, from the generations before us for their own needs.

Anyhow, at the time when I was young in Genzano, every family had a dwelling in town, no matter to which group of people or families we belonged, we all had a home in town even if it was only a few rooms that we could live-in, in the town itself. But the farmers’ families not only had a home in town, where their women folks elderly people and children lived; but most of the farmers had also a rustic farm building in the fields, where the farmer would keep his animals, and with the help of his workers if he had any workers he would work his fields from there. The farmers’ children especially those that were to become farmers would start working in the farm early in life, or as soon as they would finish their compulsory schooling years, that in those times were the primary schools.

The compulsory primary schools in Italy in those times were up to grade five; today you think that you could not learn much in five years, but in those times, we were taught to read and write, we were taught the four main math operations, addition, subtraction, multiplication and division, which are the base of just about everything, we were asked to solve simple problems with them at least ones a week; we were also taught our human history, even if it wasn’t in small details, it covered old history up to the Christian era, middle age history up to the discovery of America and modern history; it wasn’t a lot, but it gave us just enough to understand that the world changes and one Era ends and a new one begins. Anyhow, let us go back to tell you my farm life story.  

Now, some of the youths whose families were better off would start to help in the farm only during summer. But I wasn’t that lucky and at the time when I left school the first time, I was only 10 years old and I was going to be 11 years old during that year, when I had to start full time for the whole year in the farm. At that time young boys were only required to attend school up to grade 5, and I had already done so, so, I went to help in our family farm full time. Then a few years later the schooling laws changed, and all the youths had to attend school up to grade 8, or be at least 14 years old to leave school. So, I and a few other boys of my same age were the last of the little educated youths. 

Now you can imagine how I felt in the farm when I was young; I was the youngest boy around for miles, and I was of that age when young boys would start thinking about how best one could find a way into society, because we become aware of the need to be social and friendly with people, otherwise we would become shy and withdrawn just like I did.

Anyhow, this old way of living in the farms was hard for me, because, since the great loss of my father when I was 5 years old, my family had lived mourning him and a life withdrawn from society; so, now that we were all over that period of grief that any family can have, I felt that I was more withdrawn that the other boys of the same age. I needed a break, but it was not to be, because I was needed to help in the farm, so, I ended up working in the family farm and I became more isolated than ever, and that was no good for me socially.

Farming life of those days was so hard and boring, especially for me at that time of my life, when I was young. So, nowadays when I think about it, it makes me feel hurt and unhappy and I ask myself, why this had to happen to me, and I feel so hurt that I would like to tell you a story beginning with, ‘When I was young’ just to show you how much harder life was then compared with today’s ways of life.

Now that I have explained the ways of life in the farms of those days; I am mentally going over the farm life of my ancestors, who had lived the same hard life as I did, and they did not lament about it because they did not know better; you see I want to compare all those things together, to have a clear picture of what is happening to us. By comparing the farm life of these generations, I have come to the conclusion that I and those youths that ended up working in the farms when we were young, we were the last unlucky ones, because today even if a young man ends up working in the farms, they start when they are older and they cannot be as lonely as we were, because today they can have the company of electronic devices, like the radio and the mobile phones, so, we can always keep in touch with the rest of the world community.

Anyhow, I think that I have said enough in this article, so, see you in my next article called, My life in the farms. 

To see more click on this link, My farm life chapter.  

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